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Concept of Marriage : Getting Clarity through Confusion


Marriage has been a deeply confusing topic from the beginning of civilization. As soon as you hit a certain age, you have to make a decision. A big scary DECISION.

Getting married or not ? 

Now here I have cited most of the common reasons why people marry. Hope you will agree. But that's not the point of this post. 

The point is to get clarity over why we do it. And I think, there is no better way to understand something without questioning the very foundation of what we think to be correct. 

So, without further ado, let's dive in & think through some questions, which I believe, are hard but worth pondering over. 

Ready.....Steady.....Go.

1) Some do it for physical, mental & emotional fulfilment 

Don't you feel fulfilled now ? 

How do you know marriage will make you fulfilled ? 

Is this fulfilment just an IDEA or a real thing ?  

2) Some actually don't need it presently, still do it so that they will have a child who will take care of them in older days 

What if we don't get care in older days ? 

Would we die then ? 

What's wrong with death, if that's what we will get anyway ? 

Can you buy care in other way ? 

3) Some do it out of fear of social pressure so that they could be labelled as NORMAL. 

What it means to be normal ? 

Again, is this a real thing or just a seductive idea we have all agreed upon as a society ? 

What if one doesn't act normal ? 

Do we confuse normal with being healthy ? 

4) Some do it just to keep extending the family tree. They want to leave something behind. 

What's wrong with ending it here ? 

Are you simply feeding your ego ? 

Or, is it a moral obligation ? Like a promise you made with your parents to keep the tree alive 

5) Some do it to avoid loneliness 

Why do we want to avoid loneliness ? 

Is it because it is causing some sort of pain when we feel lonely ? 

Do you think your parents don't feel this pain since they are married ?  

6) Some do it because they couldn't achieve a goal & now need a child who will do it for them 

What's wrong with letting it go ?

Is it because it's so important that it must be done ? 

What if your idea of what is important is wrong ? 

Now, I am no wise guy to answer any of theses questions. But I guess thinking along these lines will make life a little better, instead of blindly believing something to be true. 

P. S : I am not supporting or opposing the notion of marriage. The aim is to bring clarity of thought. That's all.  

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